Build Your Self Confidence With These 6 Easy Steps

Build Your Self Confidence

How to Build Your Self Confidence

As America’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach and the founder of Total Mind Therapy, clients often come to my San Diego office because they feel they lack confidence. They want to use NLP and Hypnosis to improve their self confidence.

Build Your Self Confidence with These 6 Easy Steps

Let me ask, do you doubt yourself? Do you wonder if you’ve made the right decision?

Are you afraid that your next job interview, project, or even next date will turn out poorly? Does self confidence elude you?

The overshadowing problem with self-doubt is that your fears often become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Building Your Self Confidence

Building or improving self confidence is something that nearly everyone wants to do but to build you self confidence you need to take action. You can’t sit around waiting for confidence to come to you.

As you take action necessary to become more self confident, things will seem to automatically turn out better. As you build your self confidence your decision-making skills are strengthened, others are drawn to you in social situations and you are able to produce higher quality work.

Building your self confidence will allow you to create the life you desire.

6 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence

Try these 6 easy to follow strategies to silence your inner critic and build your self confidence:

1. Find the Reasons Behind Your Self Doubt

Your lack of self confidence has a root cause. Stop and think about why you’re experiencing your feelings of doubt.

Are there events that are causing you to feel insecure? Are you faced with a challenge that you don’t feel you’re capable of successfully completing? What is causing your self-doubt?

2. Listen to What You Tell Yourself

Are you using positive or negative self talk? As you listen to your self talk do you find that you have a habit of putting yourself down?

This consistent subconscious repeating of negative thoughts might be preventing you from moving forward. Such thoughts as “I can’t do this” and “I’m not good enough” can become ‘real’ reasons for you to opt out of new experiences that could bring you many benefits.

When you have a self-doubting thought, take a few moments to tell yourself “cancel, cancel”.  Resolve to live in the moment and let past failures stay where they belong, in the past.

Resolve to replace your negative self-talk with positive self talk.  Tell yourself “I can do this”. Tell yourself “cancel, cancel” and switch to positive self talk each and every time you have a self-doubting thought.

In no time at all you’ll automatically be singing your praises instead of your doubts.

3. Be Kind to Yourself  

We can be and often are our own worst critics. Instead, you can practice being kind to yourself.

If you’re like most people, when you feel momentarily insecure, you start berating yourself. When you beat yourself up over something you feel you did wrong in the past it only leads to a cycle of frustration and can lead you to put things off.

Instead realize that making mistakes doesn’t make you a bad or incompetent person – it simply makes you human. Decide to make your mistakes learning experiences.

Accept the fact that while you’re not perfect, you are certainly a person who always strives to do the very best job you can. See every challenge as an opportunity for you to grow by learning something new.

4. Make a ‘T’ List

The ‘T’ list is simply a list with two columns. On the left column, write down all of those doubtful thoughts you’re having about the situation you’re in right now.

On the right column, list all of the positive facts that show what you either have done in the past or that you know you could do.

For example, you’ve been assigned a new task at work.  You’ve never done this type of task before. If in the past you’ve immediately become negative because you feel your skills aren’t adequate make your list.

On the left side of the list write “I can’t do this because I don’t have the experience or skills.” On the right side of the page write “My boss gave me this task because I’m a quick learner who always gets the job done” and then add “I can do this”.

Usually you’ll find that your positive list outweighs your doubts. If you find that your positive list is short, search your talents and good qualities until your positive list outweighs your negative one.

5. Write a Letter to Yourself Outlining Your Strengths

Take a half hour or so and compose a letter that talks about all your positive traits.

Next, write down how you’ve overcome obstacles in the past. If you can recall a specific time when you triumphed over a challenge and accomplished something that makes you feel proud, remind yourself of this story in your letter.

The simple act of writing out your strengths can release all of those pent up insecurities that have been spinning around in your mind. What you’ll find is by the end of the letter you’ll be feeling a lot better about yourself and your abilities.

Keep the letter somewhere that you can easily find it so you can refer back to it when you need to.

6. Keep Track Of Your Successes

Make a success folder. Keep track of your successes and the kind words of appreciation you receive as a result of them from others.

When you’re experiencing self-doubt, it’s easy to forget about all of those wonderful comments you’ve received for doing things that made other people’s lives better. Collect all of the emails, notes and cards that say kind and loving things about you. Write down all the positive things people say to you.

Now as your inner critic begins to talk to you, simply take out your success folder and remind yourself of all those wonderful achievements and thoughts.

Use these 6 Steps to Build Your Self Confidence Starting Today

You don’t have to let self-doubt rob you of the opportunities to reach new heights of success in life. You can use these tips to let go of your inner critic and build your self confidence.

Practicing these 6 steps will enable you to push through any self-doubts you encounter and build your self confidence, starting today. This will clear the way for you to enjoy all the new experiences life has to bring your way.


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About the Author

Wil Dieck is America’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach©. He is also the founder of Total Mind Therapy©, a system that uses Neuro Emotional Conditioning (NEC)©.

NEC is a system that uses the best of three highly effective processes, Advanced Hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques (NLP) and meditative breathing techniques from Qigong, a Chinese Martial Art, and combines them into one powerful system that can help you build your self confidence and make quick and lasting shifts in your thinking, your behavior and, as a result, your life.

Wil is a Master Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner (NLP) hypnotherapist and Qigong Practitioner. His office is located in San Diego, CA.

He has taught hundreds of people in individual and business settings how to use Neuro Emotional Conditioning (NEC)© techniques in both their business and personal lives to build their self confidence and live the life of their dreams.

Wil is available for individual coaching sessions and group presentations on how to use NEC or hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic Programming as well as meditation techniques from Qigong to gain confidence.

If you are interested in learning more about using Neuro Emotional Conditioning (NEC)© techniques for build your self confidence then call (619) 293-3255 for your complimentary personalized assessment and action plan. In this session we’ll discuss the goals you wish to achieve and you’ll go away with an action plan packed with information on how to achieve those goals