How to Transform your Life – Part 1

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How to use hypnosis for self confidence

As a coach that helps people develop their potential I have had a number of clients that come to me wanting to change. So the first thing I do is ask them what they want. Many times they tell me some fuzzy thing that they want or what they don’t want. I have to explain that if they want shift to happen, neither of these approaches works.

Three Steps to Setting and Achieving Goals

Setting and achieving goals is actually simple if you follow three steps. These steps are:

1. Set your goal.

In NLP this is known as an outcome. To do this you need to have a clear idea of what you want.

2. Monitor your results (feedback)

Having a clear understanding what you are doing and the results you are getting as a result of your efforts. In NLP this is known as sensory acuity.

3. Adjust your behavior until you achieve your desired outcome

As you receive your results you need to be willing and able to change your behavior until you get the result (outcome) you are searching for. In NLP this is known as flexibility.

Today we’re going to talk about developing a well formed outcome.

5 Steps to a Well-formed Outcome

In order to get anything or go anywhere in life you have to have a direction or an outcome because if you don’t know where you’re going anywhere you end up is just fine. You also have to shape your outcome in a way that motivates you to achieve it. To do this you have to have what Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP calls a well formed outcome.

How to Achieve Your Goals

As I already pointed out, in order to quickly achieve your goals you need to create a well formed outcome. A well formed outcome is one that contains the following criteria:

1. Positive – Your goal has to be stated in the positive. Why? This is because your subconscious mind can only understand a negative by turning it into a positive.

For example, don’t think of an elephant. Whatever you do, don’t think of an elephant. Now close your eyes. What are you thinking of? An elephant of course. Your subconscious mind cannot not think of an elephant.

The same goes for any goal you set. Let’s say you are struggling with finances and they are stressing you out so you state your goal as “I’m not going to be stress out by my finances.”

What does your subconscious mind hear? “I’m going to be stressed out by my finances.” A better way to state your goal would be “I am approaching my finances in a calm and collected manner.”

Always ask yourself, “What is it that I really want?”

That leads us to number 2…

2.  Personal – You have to be the active participant in achieving the goal. Your outcome has to be reasonably within your control. If your outcome is a primarily a result of other people’s efforts it is not well formed.

Here’s an example many people can relate to. Let’s say your spouse or significant other who you love dearly has a personality that you don’t appreciate so you approach them and tell them about it and then ask them to change their behavior. How does that work? We all know that this approach usually doesn’t work. Instead figure out what you need to do in order to draw out the response you are looking for.

Ask yourself “What will I do to achieve my outcome?”

Remember, your outcome or goal needs to be about you and your behavior, not someone else’s.

Now that you have established a personal goal it then you need to experience it in the…

3. Present – You need to experience your goal as if it’s already accomplished. You need to determine how you will know when you’ve achieved your goal. How will the achievement of that goal that look, feel and sound like?  This gets your imagination in the attraction mode pulling your goals toward you.

For example if your goal is to get into shape and be slimmer what will that look, feel and sound like? Are you a certain weight, a certain pant or dress size or working out a certain number of times a week? What are people telling you about your appearance? How does that make you feel?

Ask yourself “How will this look, feel and sound like when I’ve accomplished my goal?”

Now to be sure this is a well formed goal you need to be sure that it is…

4. Specific – Your outcome has to be something specific, not fuzzy. For example, people when come to me and tell me “I want to be happy” my first question to them is, “What does being happy mean?” Most of the time they can’t explain what being happy means to them. This is a fuzzy goal

You goal needs to have a real and tangible outcome. Let’s say that you are unhappy with your work situation. You feel you are not getting paid enough and working too many hours. Instead of “I want to be happy” you would say “I want to work at a job that pays me $100,000 a year and that allows me to be home 3 nights a week and weekends and gives me 4 weeks of vacation that I use every year.” Now your subconscious mind understands what it is that you really want.

When you are developing a specific goal use the journalism model to create it. Ask questions that determine the who, what, when, where, and how of your outcome. This leads us to number 5…

5. Right-sized – Your outcome needs to be both large enough to motivate you as well as something that you can believe you can accomplish.

If you have a goal that is too large it can and will de-motivate you. Ask yourself “What is preventing me from doing this?” Once you figure the answer out write out your smaller, more doable goals.

For example, if your goal is to write a book, unless you’ve written a book before (and most times even if you have) this can seem like an overwhelming task. What you need to do is break the large outcome into smaller, more easily achievable tasks.

So in this case the large outcome of writing a book might be broken down into writing three pages a day or one chapter of 15 pages a week. These outcomes can seem very doable and will build up to accomplish your large goal.

On the other hand if the outcome is too small, like cleaning the garage, then ask yourself, “If I do this what will I get from it.” Now remember, as we discussed in number 2, this has to be about you. So if your significant other has asked you to clean up the garage you have to decide what you’ll get out of it, things like being able to find your stuff easier or being able to park your car without running them over.

So when setting your outcome, ask yourself, “Is this the right-sized outcome?”

That’s How to Set an Outcome

There you have it, the first step of how to achieve your goals. By using these 5 criteria for setting and achieving your well formed outcome or goals you are creating goals that will motivate you, goals you’ll want to achieve.

Next time we’ll talk about step number 2, monitoring your results.

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About the Author

Wil Dieck is the author of “Discover the Secrets of you Subconscious Mind”. He is also the founder of Total Mind Therapy, a system that fuses hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP into one powerful mind therapy. He is a leading authority in postive change hypnosis. His office is in San Diego, CA. If you are interested in how Total Mind Therapy can help you in setting and achieving your goals call (619) 293-3255 today. You will be scheduled for a risk free, no charge phone assessment that will give you answers that will help you set your goals and achieve your dreams.