Using Neuro Linguistic Programming to Create Awesome Self-Talk

Self-Talk

Create Awesome Self-Talk!

“Your self-talk is the channel of behavior change”Gino Norris

Have you ever listened to that soundtrack that’s constantly playing in your head? You know the one I’m talking about, the inner conversation that reminds you of all the things you would have like to have done differently if you had it to do all over again or things you shouldn’t have said?

The impact of your inner conversations is dramatic, influencing your emotions and actions. This, of course, steers the direction of your life. Neuro Linguistic Programming calls this constant inner conversation self-talk.

Today let’s take a look at some different types of self-talk and how you can use them to take charge of your life.

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How to Create Awesome Self Talk!

General Self-Talk

  1. Pay Attention

As you go through your day pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself. Since self-talk is so natural you’re probably not even listening to what you’re telling yourself. The first step is to pay attention so that you can become conscious of the commentary you create about your life.

  1. Use Pattern Interrupts

A pattern interrupt is a technique used in Neuro Linguistic Programming to shift how you are thinking about something in the moment.  When an old pattern of thought enters your mind do something to interrupt it. This can be something as simple as saying “cancel, cancel” to yourself as an old, disempowering thought enters your mind.

For example perhaps you’ve been asked to give a presentation about your project in front of a group and the thought “What if I mess up?” pops into your head.” Immediately tell yourself “cancel, cancel”. Now replace it with “How can I make this presentation more interesting?”

  1. Develop a Realistic Viewpoint

Make sure that your self-talk accurately measures what’s really happening around you. You don’t want to develop habitual thinking patterns that disempower you.

For example there’s a big difference between being 5 minutes late for a meeting because you were stuck in a weird traffic jam and “Being a screw up because I’m always late”.

  1. Gather Other People’s Opinions

Ask people what their impressions are of certain behaviors of yours. You can use their feedback to judge the accuracy of your self-talk.

  1. Practice Positive Self Talk

Develop a few positive affirmations to tell yourself every day. Going back to the example about talking in front of groups you might tell yourself “I continue to improve my presentation skills”.  Continue to focus on goals that are challenging, yet attainable.

  1. Be a Friend to Yourself

You will say things to yourself that you would never say to another person. Learn to be kind to yourself, talking to yourself as though you were a loving friend. While you want to be truthful, make sure you are self-supportive with your self-talk.

Motivational Self-Talk

  1. Develop Motivation Affirmations

In his great book “The Magic of Thinking Big”, David Schwartz talks about giving daily pep talks to yourself. Create affirmations that motivate you and help develop your self-confidence. A daily pep talk can boost how you feel about your worth and abilities.

  1. Use Words that Speak to You

Instead of saying something like, I am powerful” or “I am awesome” develop a motivational affirmation that uses what are known in Neuro Linguistic Programming as representational systems to kick you into high gear.

Representational systems are what you see, hear, smell, taste or touch. So if you find that you use a lot of “seeing” words, see yourself giving your talk in front of the group you’ve been asked to give your presentation to.  Or you might hear yourself giving the presentation or feel how good it was to connect with your audience.

  1. Keep Them Short

Your self-talk needs to consist of single words or a short phrase that pulls you back on track. A phase such as “I stay focused and in the moment” when you find your mind doubting your abilities while working on a project can snap you back into the right frame and erase any nagging doubts.

Instructional Self-Talk

  1. Start Using it Right Away

When you start a new activity or project you can use instructional self-talk to focus your mind on the path you want to take or on the skills you want to acquire. For example if you had set the objective to “get in shape” then you might say “I am working out first thing in the morning every week day” as you get out of bed.  This can help you set up good habits during the important beginning stages of your “get in shape” project.

  1. Be Specific

Break down the necessary tasks into specific steps. Going back to public speaking, tell yourself you are making eye contact, talking at an appropriate pace, and sounding enthusiastic during your presentation.

  1. Learning from Your Experience

While self-talk won’t make life’s challenges disappear it can help you learn how to respond more constructively. Neuro Linguistic Programming calls this using a learning frame. A learning frame focuses on what you can do differently in the future to get the results you want rather than on what you’ve done wrong.

  1. Visualize Success

Visualization doesn’t’ necessarily mean seeing, it can also involve hearing or feeling your success.  Again using the representational systems we talked about earlier you might see yourself finishing your project on time or hear praise from your boss for the excellent work you do or get a feeling of satisfaction from completing your project successfully.

Successfully Using Self-Talk

If you use these suggestions you can channel your self-talk to help you move in a positive direction. Instead of letting your automatic thoughts run wild you turn your thinking into a steady stream of positive feedback and encouragement.

In the long run this will decrease your stress, enhance your self-confidence, and help you enjoy more success in every area of your life.

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How to Create Awesome Self Talk!

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About the Author

Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy©, a system that uses Neuro Emotional Conditioning (NEC)©, a process that combines advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis), NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming and the deep breathing meditative breathing techniques from Qigong, a Chinese Martial Art into a highly effective healing and transformation process.

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