Take Back Your Life by Forgiving Others

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Live a fuller life by forgiving others

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”Mahatma Gandhi

Have you been hurt by the stinging words or actions of another, perhaps someone you love?

We all have, that’s part of being human.

While experiencing this type of hurt is completely natural sometimes we allow the hurt to last longer than it needs to.

Not only does this take a huge toll on your own happiness it can permanently damage your relationships. If you can’t forgive you’re destined to be alone.

By forgiving others you are changing the way you look at life. You are becoming, as Mahatma Gandhi pointed out, a strong human being.

While forgiving others can be difficult, it’s a skill that anyone can learn.

It just takes a desire and practice.

If you are having trouble forgiving others and want to move on with your life, try using these techniques:

1.  Make a list of how letting go will help you.

What will you gain by forgiving the other person? How will you feel when you let things go? How will your relationship with that person change?

2. How will holding on to those feelings hurt you?

How are your negative feelings affecting the people around you? How does holding a grudge against your ex-wife it affect your children?  If you can’t forgive your parents how does that affect your relationship with your wife or kids?

Is your life going to be better if you continue to follow the path you’re currently on?

3. Decide to forgive.

You need to commit to letting go of the past.  Commitment is the only way to accomplish anything. No one miraculously loses 25 pounds or quits smoking; anything you want to accomplish starts with an intention.

Decide to forgive and then find a way to forget the past and move on.

4. Have empathy.

Although there are some people who are just plain a**holes usually there’s more to it than that. Maybe there’s a lot going on in their lives.  Did something happen recently that has caused them to behave the way that they did?

Try to see things from their perspective. You might be surprised what you find.

5. Do you have a part in it?

Did you do something to contribute to the issue in some way? There are always two sides to every story. By understanding your part in the matter you can see things from their point of view. It’ll also help you find forgiveness for yourself if you regret anything that you did or said.

6. Decide to live in the now.

The reason people can’t let go is they are constantly reliving the past. That just keeps the hurt feelings churning. One of the keys to life is to live in the present.

Instead of focusing on the past take a good look around you. What do you see? Pay attention to what you are doing. If you’re driving, be 100% aware of the fact that you’re driving, not thinking about other things.

Be present.

7.  Move on.

Okay, you were pissed. Not leave it behind. You’ll feel better right away.

You are at your best when you act with compassion. You’ll also feel great when compassion and forgiveness become a regular part of your life.

You don’t forgive for others – you forgive for yourself.

Make the Right Choice

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”Viktor E. Frankl

You are an intelligent, thoughtful human being. You have the choice on how you respond.

You also do have a choice about how you interpret things and the subsequent actions you take.

You also can choose to forgive. It may take work to become good at – but it’s worth it.

But be smart. If someone took advantage of you at work, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make efforts to prevent it from happening again.

Holding on to past hurts just allows the other person to have power over you.

Let it go.

This way you don’t have to be miserable thinking about that person every day for the next 5 years.

Decide to let old hurts go. Forget, forgive and move on with your life!


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NEC is a system that uses the best of three highly effective processes, Advanced Hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques (NLP) and meditative breathing techniques from Qigong, a Chinese Martial Art, and combines them into one powerful system that you can use to alter your thinking patterns that allow you to make quick and lasting shifts in your behavior and, as a result, learn to forgive others.

Wil is a Master Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, certified hypnotherapist and Qigong Practitioner. His office is located in San Diego, CA.

He has taught hundreds of people in individual and business settings how to use Neuro Emotional Conditioning (NEC)© techniques to choose healthy options and experience healthy weight management.

Wil is available for individual coaching sessions and group presentations in using NEC or hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic Programming as well as using meditation techniques from Qigong to live the life of your dreams.

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