How to Supercharge Your Self Confidence

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You can overcome the fear of failure

Are you bogged down by the fear of failure? The fear of failure can suck you in, holding you back from living the life of your dreams.

Maybe you want to make a change because you’re not happy with your current situation, but the fear of failure holds you back from making meaningful changes your life.

While you consciously know all the reasons you should take action, your subconscious mind keeps reminding you up of all the reasons why you can’t move forward.

It’s that fear of failure that grabs you by the ankles and pulls you into the quicksand of defeat, even before you begin. Continue reading


A 30 Day Plan to Build Your Self Confidence

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You can build your self confidence

“With confidence, you have won before you have started.”Marcus Garvey

As Marcus Garvey points out, if you have self confidence you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, but without it you’re running in place.

While you might have no problem believing in others you may have difficulty believing in yourself. If this is you now is a great time to start focusing on building your self confidence.

Follow these steps to build your self confidence so you can start believing in yourself: Continue reading


Using the Habits of Highly Successful People to Overcome Your Fears

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You’ve heard of Elvis, right?

In their book, ‘Chicken Soup for the Writer’s Soul’, Jack Canfield and Mark Hansen tell a number of wonderful stories about people who overcame failure and went on to succeed.

Since I’m an Elvis fan, I paid special attention to the following story.

It seems that manager of the Grand Ole Opry, Jimmy Denny, fired Elvis Presley after one performance.

He told Elvis, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere… son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”

That was in 1954.

Elvis could have gone back home, stuck his head between his legs and never done another thing with his music.

He could have remained a nobody for the rest of his life as a result of that rejection.

But instead, as you probably already know, Elvis became the King of Rock and roll and reigned there until his untimely death in 1977.

Even in death, Elvis is still the most popular singer in America.

In fact, according to a 2009 CBS poll, “A quarter of a century after the death of Elvis Presley, more than 4 in 10 Americans still describe themselves as fans of “The King.”

That’s how highly successful people “get ‘er done”. Continue reading


7 Tips to Help You Banish Your Fear of Failure

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Does the Fear of Failure Hold You Back?

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”Winston Churchill

I really like that quote. It’s what all successful people do. On the other hand unsuccessful people experience failure and then, as a result, are hesitant to try new things.

Why do people have a fear of failure?

They experience failure and then the constant nagging thought of “What if I fail again?” hinders their efforts.

In fact, many of the clients that come to my San Diego office to use hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques come as a result of a fear of failure they acquired from past events that didn’t come out the way they wanted them to.

They have learned that trying can equal failure.

That’s true.

What’s also true is you can never accomplish anything without trying.

But as Susan Jeffers writes in her great book, ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’ – “The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.” She’s absolutely right (and by the way I highly recommend reading her book) you don’t have to have a fear of failure. Instead you can embrace failure and let it propel you to success. Continue reading


4 Simple Ways to Build Your Self Confidence at Work

Build Your Self Confidence “Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people’s criticisms, carry out your plan.”Paul J. Meyer

The pace of change in the business world today is breathtaking. In the past decade requirements for employee efficiency has led to the need to adapt to a whole new set of expectations.

For example, a decade ago, unless you had a PalmPilot you didn’t carry a computer around in your purse or pocket (it was just too big). You left your work on your desktop or carried your laptop in a big shoulder bag with you as you left the building.

Today your phone is smarter than the computer you used to work on and is much more demanding. Now your boss, customers and fellow employees expect to reach you 24/7 by voice, email or text.

Your working day is no longer defined by space and time.

The problem with this is as your job requirements change and your employer’s expectations grow, you can begin to feel unsure about yourself. Continue reading


7 Ways to Improve Your Self Confidence When Life Pulls You Down

Improve Your Self Confidence “If you think you are beaten you are; if you think you dare not, you don’t; if you want to win but think you can’t; it’s almost a cinch you won’t.”

“If you think you’ll lose you’re lost; for out of the world we find success begins with a fellow’s will; it’s all in a state of mind.”

“Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger and faster man, but sooner or later the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.”Author Unknown

Sometimes life is like an intense battle that leaves you feeling defeated. Those times can take everything out of you, and tear away at your self confidence.

When your self confidence has taken a big hit, how can you believe in yourself? How can you build your self confidence back again?

If your life has been a battle lately that’s left you feeling beat up then use these tips to improve your confidence and get back into the game: Continue reading


4 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self Confidence and Feel Better About Yourself

How to Boost Your Self Esteem“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”― Theodore Roosevelt

Sometimes life throws you nothing but curve balls. When your results aren’t what you hoped for, your self confidence can plummet. If this persists you can fall into the trap of discouragement.

The good news is if you are in a slump there are ways to boost your self confidence and self esteem and feel good about yourself again.

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My Top 10 Self Help Books

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Using Self Help Books to Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude

Over the past 40 years or so I’ve read a lot of self help books. Most of them have been, at least, very inspiring and some of them have changed my life by providing me with motivational insights and self improvement ideas that I could quickly understand and put into action. (see below for that short list).

While some people regard self-help books as something as vaguely useful, used only by people with sad or dysfunctional lives, millions of people, just like you and I buy them to give us a motivational self improvement shot in the arm.  It doesn’t matter if they’re displayed predominately on a bookshelf or kept hidden away in a nightstand there are very few households that don’t have at least one self help book. Continue reading


Making Decisions – A Key to Success

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Making Decisions and Learning From Your Mistakes is a Key to Success

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Teddy Roosevelt had it right, when it comes to making decisions the worst thing you can do is nothing. But I know what it’s like to be unable to unable to make a decision. I think, well I could do this or that and then I decide maybe I’ll just wait and figure it out later. Only later the decision still needs to be made and I find I’ve just wasted a lot of time that could have been used more productively if only…

If only I’d made a decision earlier. I’ve said that quite a few times in my life.

Does this ever happen to you? Have you ever found yourself really struggling to make a decision? Maybe there were so many choices available that you were unable to make the decisions needed to eliminate your undesirable options so you could make your best choice.

Or maybe you had a couple of choices and each had their strengths and weaknesses which caused you to waiver and you simply got stuck, unable to choose either one.

Having difficulty making decisions is frustrating, isn’t it?

Making correct decisions quickly is important if you want to live a quality life.

Why is making decisions quickly so important? Continue reading


Nightly Mental Fitness Exercises to Sharpen Your Morning Mental Alertness

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How to Sharpen Your Morning Mental Alertness

“You have a very powerful mind that can make anything happen as long as you keep yourself centered.” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Have you ever had such a bad day at work that it completely affected the rest of your week? Sure, we all have.

When things go really wrong it can be easy for that single day’s happenings to make you feel powerless and incompetent. In fact, if the day is bad enough it can make you feel so incapable that it’s difficult to carry out your duties for the next few days or weeks.

Using Mental Fitness Exercises to Get You Back in the Game Continue reading