“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.” – John Wooden
For nearly a decade as America’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach I’ve helped hundreds of people shift their focus and take control of their lives. I’ve done this using advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) or what I call Total Mind Therapy© in my San Diego office. Many of these people come to me because they say they feel inadequate. While everyone can feel inadequate every once in a while it’s when you continue to have that feeling of inadequacy that you begin to have a problem. Over long periods of time this can result in chronic stress and even depression.
Shift Your Focus on to What You Want
A race car driver once told me, “If you want to pass you need to focus on the gap, where you want your car to go. If you focus on the wall you’ll run into the wall. If you focus on the car beside you you’ll run into the car beside you. You need to focus on the gap.”
This is sage advice for your life as well. In order to get what you want in life you need to focus on what you want rather than on what you don’t want. You need to shift your focus so it takes you in the direction you want to go. It’s that simple.
7 Choices that Shift Your Focus and Help You Take Control of Your Life
1. Choose How to Live Your Life
Most people are constantly looking to others for guidance about how to live their lives. Stop letting others tell you what you can and can’t do. Just because your parents wanted you to be a doctor doesn’t mean you have to be a doctor. Maybe you really like being around sick people. Decide what it is you want to do with your life and allow yourself to go in that direction. Choose to believe in yourself and what to do in life.
2. Choose to Do Something You Are Good At
You and I, we all are good at something. Remember, I didn’t say perfect at, I said good at. Take an inventory of the things you are good at. You’ll probably find they are also the things you really like to do. Now that you know what you’re good at you can start to shift your focus in a direction that makes you feel good about you.
3. Choose to Believe in Yourself and Your Abilities
Some people have a hard time believing in themselves. They don’t feel they’ve accomplished much in their lives. If this is you, start by making a list of all the accomplishments you’ve ever done. Did you learn to ride a bicycle? Write it down. Did you graduate high school? Write it down. Did you spend time in the military service? Write it down. Did you ever receive an award? Write it down.
Once you’ve written down your accomplishments take a few minutes to read them out loud to yourself them every day. This will help you begin to shift your focus and start believing in yourself.
4. Choose to Have an Attitude of Gratitude
Everyone has things to be grateful for. Be grateful for the accomplishments you listed above. Be grateful for the things you already have in your life. Be grateful for the building that keeps the elements off of you and for the electricity to keep your computer humming and your lights on. I hallucinate (imagine) that you probably have enough to eat. Be grateful for that! You probably have a few people in your life that love and care for you. Be grateful for that too!
When you acknowledge and appreciate what you already have you are shifting your focus and choosing the kind of life you want to live.
5. Choose What You Say to Yourself
We constantly have an inner conversation with ourselves. This dialog is called self talk. You can choose either positive or negative self talk. Most people choose negative self talk. It’s only natural; it’s the way we’re all raised. Instead of noticing the things we do well we notice the things we don’t do so well. Then we start putting labels on ourselves like failure or loser. The problem with negative self talk is that it can make you feel very inadequate.
A basic tenant of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is there is no failure, only feedback. Just because you didn’t succeed at something doesn’t make you a failure. When you reframe the event as a learning experience it becomes something you can learn from rather than a failure. Just because you didn’t do well at something doesn’t mean that you’re a lousy human being or that you’ll never succeed. It just means you’ll have to choose to do things differently in the future.
If you find that you’re habitually using negative self talk, ask yourself if the message is really true. If it’s not then give yourself permission to have a “do over” and then use positive self talk to reframe your statement. Rinse and repeat several times a day.
6. Choose to Celebrate ALL of Your Accomplishments
Each day choose to celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small. Did you make it to work on time? Congratulate yourself. Did you finish your work today? Congratulate yourself. Did you make someone smile today? Congratulate yourself. Shift your focus by finding a few things that you did well each day and take pride in them. This choice will make you feel great!
7. Choose to Focus on What’s Really Important in Life
Most people focus on the small stuff. Choose not to sweat the small stuff and remember – it’s all small stuff.
When things aren’t going the way you want them to ask yourself this question, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” After you figure that out then ask yourself, “Can I live with that?” I would imagine that in 99.9% of all cases you encounter the answer will be “yes”. When you learn how to put things into this kind of perspective you go a long way toward shifting your focus toward the life you want to live.
Starting Today Choose Where You Put Your Focus
Starting today, choose where you put your focus. Choose to accept yourself as you really are; a growing, evolving human being, one full of the seeds of greatness.
Use these seven choices to shift your focus to living the life you want to live. You deserve that life so start using them today
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About the Author
Wil Dieck is America’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach. He uses advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) or Total Mind Therapy© to help people make lasting and significant shifts in their thinking so that they can reshape their future into the one of their dreams. His office is located in San Diego,CA. If you are interested in finding out how Total Mind Therapy© can help you make these types of shifts then call (619) 293-3255 for a complimentary, risk free phone evaluation of your goals and how Total Mind Therapy© can help you achieve them.