I have value just because I exist

I have valueSometimes life challenges me, making me question my value in the world. These trials provide me with opportunities to reflect on my true  worth.

In these reflections I think, what does being “worthy” really mean?

Research shows me that being worthy means that I am “good,” “deserving,” and “right.” Since I believe that all of us are basically good, then I too, am good and worthy of the life I’m living.

As I think about my value, I understand that as a human being I am “equal” to all others in our other humans. I understand that even though I am flawed I still am worthy.

Sometimes there are people who send me negative messages about my value. When this happens I reflect on these situations as they occur. Then, I choose how to respond with care as I protect my value tactfully.

Why am I worthy? It’s simply because everyone “matters.”

Regardless of my shortcomings I still have value. The reality is I am worthy because I am alive.

Today, I list all my positive characteristics. I do this to identify my value, all the good things about me. After I write them out I celebrate who I am.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. Do I recognize my value?
  2. How can I remind myself each day of how valuable I am?
  3. How can I earn the respect of others by recognizing my own value?

 

3 Strategies for Improving Your Self Esteem

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Steps for improving your self esteem

“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” -Thomas Carlyle

How do you see yourself?

How you see yourself, your self-esteem, is one of the most important and powerful forces in your life. That’s because how you see yourself often turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you don’t see yourself as being able to do something, for example, meet new people, then you’ll have difficulty meeting new people. This is an issue of how you esteem yourself, commonly known as your self-esteem.

The good news is if you’re lacking in this area there are ways to improve it. Continue reading

 

Why Do You Want to Lose Weight?

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Healthy Weight Management vs. Short term Weight Loss

When a client comes to me wanting to lose weight using hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic Programming Techniques, my first questions is “Why do you want to lose weight?”

I ask this because I’ve found that once you understand your “why” the “how” becomes much easier.

The “Weight Loss” Mindset

When it comes to losing weight the reason most people only experience temporary success is they have a “weight loss” mindset. In other words the have a short term goal such as being able to look good for a special day or event.

For example, you might be going to a family or class reunion or you may want to look good at your nephew’s wedding. Continue reading

 

Memory Improvement Tips

Memory Improvement Tips

Memory Improvement Tips

Having a sharp memory will improve your life. If you don’t feel you have a great memory don’t worry, the following are a few simple memory improvement tips that you can use to sharpen your mental agility.

Memory for Life

Your memory does not have to fade as you grow older.

Recently scientists that study the brain have been able to understand how your brain network forms memories. What they’ve found is that from the time you were in your mother’s womb throughout until now, your brain’s network has never stops expanding, adapting and learning. Continue reading

 

Creating a Positive Mental Attitude – The Key to Success and Happiness

Creating a Positive Attitude

Creating a Positive Mental Attitude

You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.- Zig Ziglar

How’s your mental attitude? Do you have a positive mental attitude or a negative one, or even worse a “neutral” one?

The importance of your mental attitude cannot be overstressed; it can make you or break you. As Zig Ziglar once said, “Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”

Your mental attitude will determine how far you’ll go in life. A positive mental attitude can help send you, again in the words of Zig Ziglar, “To the Top”.

How Does Having a Positive Mental Attitude Help? Continue reading

 

My Top 10 Self Help Books

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Using Self Help Books to Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude

Over the past 40 years or so I’ve read a lot of self help books. Most of them have been, at least, very inspiring and some of them have changed my life by providing me with motivational insights and self improvement ideas that I could quickly understand and put into action. (see below for that short list).

While some people regard self-help books as something as vaguely useful, used only by people with sad or dysfunctional lives, millions of people, just like you and I buy them to give us a motivational self improvement shot in the arm.  It doesn’t matter if they’re displayed predominately on a bookshelf or kept hidden away in a nightstand there are very few households that don’t have at least one self help book. Continue reading

 

Nightly Mental Fitness Exercises to Sharpen Your Morning Mental Alertness

Mental Fitness Exercises

How to Sharpen Your Morning Mental Alertness

“You have a very powerful mind that can make anything happen as long as you keep yourself centered.” - Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Have you ever had such a bad day at work that it completely affected the rest of your week? Sure, we all have.

When things go really wrong it can be easy for that single day’s happenings to make you feel powerless and incompetent. In fact, if the day is bad enough it can make you feel so incapable that it’s difficult to carry out your duties for the next few days or weeks.

Using Mental Fitness Exercises to Get You Back in the Game Continue reading

 

How to Overcome Your Fears

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You Can Overcome Your Fears

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”Eleanor Roosevelt

What keeps you up at night? A better question is what worries you and what are you afraid of? Do your worries act as a barrier, keeping you from accomplishing all you want in life?

Mark Twain once said, “My life has been filled with calamities, some of which actually happened.”

How true.

Researchers at the University of Cincinnati have found that “fully eight-five percent of what we worry about never happens.  Of the 15% that actually happens a full 79% are able to turn the situation around.”

Still, with even with this telling statistic, many people let their fears stop them from taking the action they need to do things that could prove to be worthwhile or even lucrative.

Where Do Your Fears Come From? Continue reading

 

How to be More Assertive and Confident

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How to be assertive and confident

“I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done.”Robert Downey, Jr.

If you go to a bookstore you’ll find that self-help books take up a big part of their shelving space. Self-help are books also the most common request at libraries across the nation.

Why?

It’s because people from all walks of life, business people, homemakers, college students, are all looking for ways to better their lives and the most sought after quality people are trying to improve is that of being more assertive and confident.

The Need to be More Assertive and Confident Continue reading

 

How and Why Hypnosis Works

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Hypnosis Works

If you can shift your thinking you can change your life.” – Wil Dieck

I’ve been a professional Master NLP Practitioner and hypnotherapist practicing in San Diego since 2005. During that time thousands of people have asked me “Can Neuro Linguistic Programming and hypnosis techniques really work to _____?”

My answer is over human history hypnosis has been used by billions of people and continues to work for millions today. I have seen its powerful results for thousands of my San Diego Clients in many different types of situations.

While the use of Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques is not as well documented as those of hypnosis, there is a good deal of evidence that points to its effectiveness also (you just have to go further than Wikipedia for good data). Continue reading